When it comes to sexual abuse, t's easy to think "Well, there's really nothing I can do". If you don't have children or grandchildren, you can still help by putting pressure on schools. You can call and find out what there policies are when it comes to reporting child sexual abuse.
They might either tell you, "I'm not sure", or "We report it to our supervisor" (principal, coach, manager, whatever). Those are not acceptable answers. Every employee and teacher in a school should have a clear idea how to take action.
So call and call until they put training and an acceptable policy in writing for employees. Sexual abuse is so pervasive it's must be dealt with. It's always been known pedophiles would try to volunteer or get jobs wherever they can have access to children.
Part of the problem is pedophiles are experts at appearing to be "Mr. Nice Guy", the one least expected. So there's always a feeling of "He wouldn't do something like that because he's an excellent teacher and he just LOVES!!! children". Oh yeah, he does LOVE children. The problem is HIS definition of loving children is totally different from your definition.
So if you have to bug school administrators and school boards to take action, DO IT! You could be saving a child from a horror that will haunt them for the rest of their lives, or even saving them from death.
U of A Adopts Policy For Reporting Child Abuse
The University of Arkansas has created a two-step policy for reporting suspected child abuse on the university's Fayetteville campus.
The policy announced Wednesday calls for a university employee who suspects child abuse, neglect or other maltreatment to first call the state's Child Abuse Hotline - then to notify campus police.
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UALR Ramps Up Training for Staff on Reporting Child Sex Abuse
Since Jerry Sandusky and Penn State hit the headlines, a spotlight's been thrown on university policies to protect kids who come under colleges' care.
"Oh certainly, I mean we were all shocked and saddened by the incidents that happened at Penn State," Hampton said. "It causes all of us to take a step back and look at what we've currently got in place to protect children on our campus."
Questions of training and staff awareness about reporting mandates here in Arkansas have stolen the show, leading to evaluations of what practices are in place right now.
"What are we doing? What can we do? What should we be doing? Have we done all that we can?" Hampton listed the questions UALR has been asking its staff. "And we have found that we need to heighten awareness among our university staffs so they know who to report to and how to report."
The University of Arkansas' Fayetteville campus is the first to put more stringent policies on paper, expanding reporting child abuse to all university employees and volunteers. But UALR is taking the cue by ramping up training for those working in the wings.
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Friday, March 16, 2012
Thursday, March 8, 2012
TEACH CHILD HOW TO FIGHT DANGER FROM A STRANGER
Stranger danger is another thing parents must teach their children to handle. You can't just tell a child not to get in a car with someone they don't know, because chances are, they won't be invited into the vehicle. They'll be grabbed and quickly shoved into it.
The most recent survey numbers of kidnapping, that I could find, was done in 2002. According to the report, done by the U.S. Justice Department, revealed of the roughly 261,000 children who are abducted every year, the majority (203,900) are taken by a family member, and just 90 to 115 are victims of "stereotypical kidnappings".
A stereotypical kidnapping, according to the survey is committed by a stranger or slight acquaintance. The child is kept overnight, transported at 50 miles, held for ransom, abducted with the intention of keeping the child permanently, or killed.
So that's only about 115 children a year. Really cuts down on the chances your child will be a victim, right? WRONG!
That figure doesn't even count the 58,000 abductions known as "nonfamily abduction", because to many law enforcement agencies this doesn't qualify as abductions because the act of detaining the child is incidental to the primary crime, usually sexual abuse. Many of these are committed by people we should be able to trust with our children, scout leaders, teachers, pastors, youth ministers, even police officers.
That certainly ups the chances of your child being abused and what you teach your child about strangers is important.
Again, you MUST role play with your child so they'll know exactly what to do if the unthinkable happens. Make sure they know if the man tries to make them cooperate by telling them he'll hurt their mommy or sister or whoever, that he's a liar so don't believe it for a minute.
If they're on a bicycle when it happens, forget the bicycle. Throw it on the ground, start running and screaming. If it involves a puppy, NEVER help anyone find their puppy even if he looks nice. If approached by a man like this, run away as fast as they can towards other people. There's safety if they can find a group of people, even if they don't know them.
If someone manages to grab them, teach them how to fight, kick, scratch, bite and it's important they keep screaming as loud and long as they can. Teach them to throw their body back and forth while kicking and screwing Impress them it's important they try to stay out of that vehicle. Teach them to poke out eyes, hit his nose in an upward motion as hard as they can with the heel of their hand. Bite the nose like you want to bite it off. Dropping to the ground and kicking the front of someone's knee as hard as they can with both feet.
If there's anyone around, they must start fighting and screaming "HELP! HE'S NOT MY DAD!"
Is there a chance your child will over react sometime? Sure. Better the child over react at some point than NOT ACT and end up raped and dead.
And i know we've spent time teaching our lovely little children that it's not nice to bite. Now's the time to teach them there is one time it's acceptable to bite. Again, if they get in this situation, tell them to bite anything that gets close to their mouth.
The most recent survey numbers of kidnapping, that I could find, was done in 2002. According to the report, done by the U.S. Justice Department, revealed of the roughly 261,000 children who are abducted every year, the majority (203,900) are taken by a family member, and just 90 to 115 are victims of "stereotypical kidnappings".
A stereotypical kidnapping, according to the survey is committed by a stranger or slight acquaintance. The child is kept overnight, transported at 50 miles, held for ransom, abducted with the intention of keeping the child permanently, or killed.
So that's only about 115 children a year. Really cuts down on the chances your child will be a victim, right? WRONG!
That figure doesn't even count the 58,000 abductions known as "nonfamily abduction", because to many law enforcement agencies this doesn't qualify as abductions because the act of detaining the child is incidental to the primary crime, usually sexual abuse. Many of these are committed by people we should be able to trust with our children, scout leaders, teachers, pastors, youth ministers, even police officers.
That certainly ups the chances of your child being abused and what you teach your child about strangers is important.
Again, you MUST role play with your child so they'll know exactly what to do if the unthinkable happens. Make sure they know if the man tries to make them cooperate by telling them he'll hurt their mommy or sister or whoever, that he's a liar so don't believe it for a minute.
If they're on a bicycle when it happens, forget the bicycle. Throw it on the ground, start running and screaming. If it involves a puppy, NEVER help anyone find their puppy even if he looks nice. If approached by a man like this, run away as fast as they can towards other people. There's safety if they can find a group of people, even if they don't know them.
If someone manages to grab them, teach them how to fight, kick, scratch, bite and it's important they keep screaming as loud and long as they can. Teach them to throw their body back and forth while kicking and screwing Impress them it's important they try to stay out of that vehicle. Teach them to poke out eyes, hit his nose in an upward motion as hard as they can with the heel of their hand. Bite the nose like you want to bite it off. Dropping to the ground and kicking the front of someone's knee as hard as they can with both feet.
If there's anyone around, they must start fighting and screaming "HELP! HE'S NOT MY DAD!"
Is there a chance your child will over react sometime? Sure. Better the child over react at some point than NOT ACT and end up raped and dead.
And i know we've spent time teaching our lovely little children that it's not nice to bite. Now's the time to teach them there is one time it's acceptable to bite. Again, if they get in this situation, tell them to bite anything that gets close to their mouth.
Sunday, March 4, 2012
IF ANY PART IS CLOSE TO MOUTH, TEACH CHILD TO BITE LIKE A BULLDOG!
You only have to watch the news to figure out the number of children being molested, raped, tortured and killed is on the rise. It's almost like the kids are running around with a target taped to their backs.
So whose responsibility is it to protect children? It's YOUR responsibility…and mine. It is NOT the responsibility of police or judges or doctors. They are called in AFTER the damage has been done. The only defense a child has is you and me.
Research will tell you, depending on who you believe, that 70 to 90 percent of children are molested by someone they know. It could be a father, step-father, grandfather, older child, teacher, uncle, or a trusted long-time family friend. I happen to believe it's closer to 70 percent, but the numbers don't mean much because it only takes one molester to rape or kill a child.
Profile of a molester: He's been married or is married, has children of his own, works, dresses nicely, is a good family man, and is religious. He's educated, at least a high school education, and probably some college. He may be an executive, or own his own business. He's considered reliable. He is our husbands, our fathers, our next door neighbor, our child's teacher, coach, or even our pediatrician. He may be a foster parent or have adopted children.
If and when HE is arrested, his wife knows he's been falsely accused. His friends say "Not John. I've known him for years, even went to school with him. He would never do that." His pastor says, "He's in church every time the doors open. He volunteers. I went to visit him in jail and we prayed together. He wouldn't do something like that." People might even say "He wouldn't do that, he loves kids."
Then John confesses and other victims come forward. When John goes to court, he comes prepared with letters from respected people willing to recommend the judge go easy on him because he's a good family man, a hard worker, religious and is sorry for what's happened. They might even say he didn't know what he was doing because he's an alcoholic but he's now in a treatment program and it won't happen again.
The judge gives poor old John 7 years instead of 20, suspends 6 of them, and orders him into therapy. He has to register as a sex offender and must be actively monitored for those 6 years. He's not to be around children, except his own of course. Yep. That'll fix things. He's back around his victim, he does his year in jail, and then he's turned loose on society again. His sexual preference for children will not change. HE will not change…oh wait….yes he will. He'll learn to be more careful and not leave a witness the next time.
Let me clear something up. Alcoholics are NOT child molesters. Some molesters are alcoholics but they're molesters whether they're drinking or not.
So what do we tell our kids? One of the best defenses against a child being a victim, is to role play with them. You're not going to scare them, You're going to enable them. Forewarned is forearmed. You can't just tell them what to do, because they will forget if it happens and they get scared. ROLE PLAY WITH THEM. You play the molester and teach them what to do. There's truth in the old saying, "The best defense is an offense."
If the molester is whispering, have them scream "HELP ME" at the top of their lungs. If he tells them to shut up or he'll hurt them, have them keep screaming. If it happens with nobody else around, make sure they know it's safe to tell someone they trust IMMEDIATELY. Make sure they know he might even threaten to hurt mommy if they ever tell but he's a liar. They must tell anyway because NOBODY, even someone in the family or a good friend, has a right to touch their chest, buttocks, or private parts.
If they can get to ANY part of his body with their teeth, a nose, an arm….or…(cough, cough)…. any other part that might get close to their mouth….have them bite like a bulldog. Not a little bite but a clamp down until it bleeds bite.
Then have them run. If they see a telephone, dial 9-1-1 and if the molester is coming, just lay the phone down off of the hook and keep screaming "HELP ME".
DO NOT LET YOUR CHILD BECOME A VICTIM. AND IF YOU SUSPECT SOMEONE ELSE'S CHILD IS BEING OR HAS BEEN MOLESTED OR ABUSED. CALL AND REPORT IT! You may be the only person standing between a child and their molester. It would be better to be wrong than to be right and do nothing.
So whose responsibility is it to protect children? It's YOUR responsibility…and mine. It is NOT the responsibility of police or judges or doctors. They are called in AFTER the damage has been done. The only defense a child has is you and me.
Research will tell you, depending on who you believe, that 70 to 90 percent of children are molested by someone they know. It could be a father, step-father, grandfather, older child, teacher, uncle, or a trusted long-time family friend. I happen to believe it's closer to 70 percent, but the numbers don't mean much because it only takes one molester to rape or kill a child.
Profile of a molester: He's been married or is married, has children of his own, works, dresses nicely, is a good family man, and is religious. He's educated, at least a high school education, and probably some college. He may be an executive, or own his own business. He's considered reliable. He is our husbands, our fathers, our next door neighbor, our child's teacher, coach, or even our pediatrician. He may be a foster parent or have adopted children.
If and when HE is arrested, his wife knows he's been falsely accused. His friends say "Not John. I've known him for years, even went to school with him. He would never do that." His pastor says, "He's in church every time the doors open. He volunteers. I went to visit him in jail and we prayed together. He wouldn't do something like that." People might even say "He wouldn't do that, he loves kids."
Then John confesses and other victims come forward. When John goes to court, he comes prepared with letters from respected people willing to recommend the judge go easy on him because he's a good family man, a hard worker, religious and is sorry for what's happened. They might even say he didn't know what he was doing because he's an alcoholic but he's now in a treatment program and it won't happen again.
The judge gives poor old John 7 years instead of 20, suspends 6 of them, and orders him into therapy. He has to register as a sex offender and must be actively monitored for those 6 years. He's not to be around children, except his own of course. Yep. That'll fix things. He's back around his victim, he does his year in jail, and then he's turned loose on society again. His sexual preference for children will not change. HE will not change…oh wait….yes he will. He'll learn to be more careful and not leave a witness the next time.
Let me clear something up. Alcoholics are NOT child molesters. Some molesters are alcoholics but they're molesters whether they're drinking or not.
So what do we tell our kids? One of the best defenses against a child being a victim, is to role play with them. You're not going to scare them, You're going to enable them. Forewarned is forearmed. You can't just tell them what to do, because they will forget if it happens and they get scared. ROLE PLAY WITH THEM. You play the molester and teach them what to do. There's truth in the old saying, "The best defense is an offense."
If the molester is whispering, have them scream "HELP ME" at the top of their lungs. If he tells them to shut up or he'll hurt them, have them keep screaming. If it happens with nobody else around, make sure they know it's safe to tell someone they trust IMMEDIATELY. Make sure they know he might even threaten to hurt mommy if they ever tell but he's a liar. They must tell anyway because NOBODY, even someone in the family or a good friend, has a right to touch their chest, buttocks, or private parts.
If they can get to ANY part of his body with their teeth, a nose, an arm….or…(cough, cough)…. any other part that might get close to their mouth….have them bite like a bulldog. Not a little bite but a clamp down until it bleeds bite.
Then have them run. If they see a telephone, dial 9-1-1 and if the molester is coming, just lay the phone down off of the hook and keep screaming "HELP ME".
DO NOT LET YOUR CHILD BECOME A VICTIM. AND IF YOU SUSPECT SOMEONE ELSE'S CHILD IS BEING OR HAS BEEN MOLESTED OR ABUSED. CALL AND REPORT IT! You may be the only person standing between a child and their molester. It would be better to be wrong than to be right and do nothing.
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